Wednesday, 19 August 2015

Mrs Sheikh Asyraf Bux, now :)

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh !

Did any of you notice that exclamation mark after my salam ? Unusual isn't it ? Teehee, that's because I'm suuuuper duper excited to be blogging again ! I've missed my little comfortable space where I can just write and for the longest time, I've been sooo busy with the wedding preparation, I couldn't find the time to update my blog. But don't you worry, my loyal blog readers (if I have any haha), I'M BACK !

So many things to write about, so little time ! Okay, as you all know, I just got married on the 8th of August and it's been the happiest of days, Alhamdulillah. Yeah yeah yeah, I've only been married for like 11 days now pfft what would I know about marriage... As most of you would probably say but I really am happy. My hands have been itching to share my wedding photos but there's so many, I cannot possibly spam my Instagram so I think I'll share a few along with this post ! When I was thinking about updating my blog a few hours ago, I really had no idea what to write about because my mind is still so overwhelmed and I'm still on cloud nine now that I'm scared I might blab (which as you can see, I have the past one and a half paragraph ago). So, forgive me. BUT ! While I was on Facebook (yes, I still use that old thing hehe), I came across a really interesting video about marrying someone for all the wrong reasons and at the end of the video, I had all these thoughts and opinions that I just cannot wait to write about !

The beginning of the video talked about how people who are about to get married always think that marriage is a shortcut to eternal happiness. I see tons of girls commenting on my Instagram photos and tweeting me saying they can't wait to get married as if, marriage is like the answer to everything. It really is NOT. I'm just really lucky to have gotten married at such a young age but that does not mean that I'm always going to be in my honeymoon phase and live happily ever after. I knew that marriage was going to take a lot hard work, 110% commitment and 123587084% trust before I got married. I didn't agree to get married because it was #relationshipgoals (what does that even mean ??) or I was forced to but when I looked at my husband, I knew instantly that he is the man I want to build a family with, create a home with, be the best for and achieve happiness with dunya and akhirah, insyaaAllah. Everyone seems to think that marriage is going to be all fine and dandy like when you were dating, sorry to burst your bubble but it's not. Your whole life is going to alter because you're going to have to get used to sharing a blanket with someone, serving someone, always considering the other person's feelings and a lot more.. It's a question of either you're matured enough and ready for it or not ? What I did before I got married was I read a lot (and I mean it, A LOT) of books, blogs, Islamic forums and watched tons of videos on marriage life and what to expect. 

The MOST important thing that I learned was- to always, always put your partner above everything (except Allah SWT, that is). Put your partner above your anger when he/she makes you angry, above your frustration when he/she does something wrong, above your crappy hormonal PMS emotional mood swings when it's the time of the month and most importantly, put the other person's happiness above your own. I never really understood it until I got married. When my husband does something that I don't like or hurts me in any way, I don't just sulk and get angry until it turns into a fight like when we were dating but I sit and think about his feelings if I lash out, then I'll tend to calm down. Or when I was super delirious in my sleep that one night and accidentally turned on the night light next to me and woke my husband up from his sleep when he had an early flight the next day, he didn't get angry (he's super grouchy when he needs his sleep, I'm surprised he didn't scold me) but instead he went back to sleep and asked me nicely the next morning why I turned on the night light when I knew he was sleeping. I feel like remembering to always put him above everything, made me into someone I didn't even know was in myself. I feel like I'm more patient, more loving, more considerate and things that I never thought I could improve in (e.g. cooking). It's amazing how my tiniest gestures makes my husband really happy which of course, makes me happy. I'm really lucky to be able to experience this at such a young age and take on the world with someone by my side. I think that the most important thing that I learned is what needed to be shared and hopefully, be a tip for all of you joining the club soon ! 

And for patiently reading my rambles, here's some of the wedding pictures; 

-The Akad Nikah-

a lil eye to eye moment just before the akad nikah :p

satu lafaz, Alhamdulillah !

of course, I couldn't stop crying.. *blush*

miracle workers these two, I tell you <3

my cute Opah ! <3

looove my husband <3

-The Reception-

mama and her never ending selfies !

I was gripping his hand so tightly because I got super nervous walking in a hall with 800 pairs of eyes on me !

when I started bawling my eyes out listening to my sister's speech.

my #1 bestfriends, my siblings <3

Danish's exact words were, "If you hurt my sister, I will beat you up, man."

both our families feat. Aizat Amdan performing for us. more like Aizat singing and some whispers from the back :p

but Asyraf and I had a good time singing along from where we were seated :)

okay, let's take a moment to appreciate my gorgeous reception dress by Najeeb Azami. I mean, look at that beading !

*disclaimer; we fed each other chocolate balls instead of cake because the cake was super hard to cut !

my husband giving his speech.

obviously, he's the funny one in the relationship *rolls eyes*

pffttttt cried some more during MY speech !

which also made mummy dearest cry :(

surprised Asyraf with a song that I planned about 3 days before the wedding :p

completely forgot I was singing in front of 800 guests because all I could see was him :)

I'm the romantic one in the relationship, duh.

stuck with me, FOREVER & EVER & EVER !

In a nutshell, marriage life is amazing if you do it with the right person. I cannot imagine myself being anywhere else with anyone else at this very moment in my life. Asyraf Bux, my darling husband, you make me feel like a million dollars every single second of every day and I am the luckiest person to be able to share my life with someone as amazing as you are. My days with you have been the best and I cannot wait to see what the future holds. Here's to the rest of our lives, sayang. I love you.