Saturday, 13 June 2015

Ramadhan, we're waiting !

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh 

Sorry that I've been super MIA lately ! A lot of things are going on that it's super hard to have a quiet time with my laptop (if you don't count the days I stay in bed watching PLL teehee). I'm so excited that Ramadhan is just around the corner. I feel like Ramadhan is always a good time to cleanse yourself inside and out. I have been a bit off lately, may Allah forgive me but I do intend on catching up with beautifying my soul this Ramadhan, insyaaAllah ! I always get questions on how I boost my imaan during Ramadhan and keep it going for as long as I can, so here's a few tips; 

Before Ramadhan
1. Satisfy your cravings because during Ramadhan, it's not really cravings anymore, it's nafs !
2. If you haven't been praying 5 times a day, it's good to try praying 5 times a day now. It's so that when Ramadhan comes, it's already a habit not a chore !
3. Start reading the Quran. A head start is always the way to go ! 
4. For girls that have missed a few days, replace as soon as you can. Don't delay !
5. Talk less and zikr more so that when Ramadhan comes, more good comes out of your mouth than the bad.
6. Go to the masjid more. This will soon turn into a habit too !

During Ramadhan
1. Drink more. Your body needs all the hydration it can get !
2. Eat healthier food. Ramadhan is all about getting rid of the bad and taking the good in. Start with what you put in your mouth !
3. Read more Quran !
4. Instead of going out and wasting your time, take the fasting month to reflect on yourself. Read a good book, get a make over, upgrade your closet, treat yourself ! You deserve it. 
5. Think good thoughts ! No matter how tempted you are to think bad about someone or something, change that thought. Even if your initial thought was a nasty one, it's the second one that really counts. 
6. Go to the masjid for taraweeh. It's a different vibe during Ramadhan so, trust me. You wouldn't want to miss it !
7. Be extra i-want-something-although-it's-not-my-birthday-cherry-on-top nice to your parents. When they piss you off, be extra patient. Trust me, it'll be worth it ! 
8. Be extra i-want-something-although-it's-not-my-birthday-cherry-on-top nice to everyone ! A little kindness can go a long way :) 
9. Be extra i-want-something-although-it's-not-my-birthday-cherry-on-top nice to yourself. Give yourself a break. 
10. Be more grateful and contented. When you're satisfied and happy with what you have, you'll never complain again !
11. Duaa more. Even if you have nothing to ask for, just duaa :)

After Ramadhan
Repeat before Ramadhan, steps 1-6 and during Ramadhan, steps 1-11. And don't forget, extend that list !

Good Luck ! :)

Wednesday, 22 April 2015

awareness for a different cause

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

You know how our country has always been known for having multiple races and we're all free to practice our own culture and what not ? That has always been the thing I love most about our country. The fact that despite our differences in race, religion and skin colour, we still practice a peaceful life.

But, are we losing that..? The headlines are now talking about a group of Muslim protesting against a cross symbol that was put on a church by the Christians. Apparently, these Muslims forced the Christian community to take down the cross which may I remind you, symbolizes the religion that they practice. Just like how in Islam we have our star and crescent as a symbol of our religion. I apologize on behalf of my Muslim family on how they reacted. I will never understand what got into them but I can promise you that I will stand by the Christian community to help regain freedom in practicing their religion as they please. It makes zero sense in my mind and I hope, my blog readers' minds that just because the church was built in a Malay area that the Christians cannot put up a symbol of their religion on the building that they use to practice their religion. It's almost like telling Muslims to not sound the adhaan when it comes to prayer times because it will "disrupt" the peace of the non Muslims.

Religious intolerance should never be tolerated especially in a country that preaches freedom in practicing different religions. Just like how the Muslims in Palestine, Syria and all the countries alike those are fighting against terrorism, trying to regain freedom in practicing Islam as they like for example being able to pray in the mosques they have built or simply to just pledge their faithfulness to Allah SWT without getting killed, the non Muslims in our country should never feel like they can't practice their religion (that doesn't disrespect any other religion in any way at all)  freely just because they live in a Muslim country or even worse, in a Malay housing area. Islam teaches us about peace, tolerance, unity and all the good things we're suppose to practice but why are some Muslims going around forcing people of other religion to not practice their religion as they like ? Even back when Prophet Muhammad SAW was preaching and there were non Muslims who came to the mosque to discuss things with him, then it was time for the non Muslims to pray, our kind and understanding Prophet Muhammad SAW gladly allowed them to perform their prayers in the mosque. This is the man that could do no wrong and not once spoke ill or even lied.. Compared to us, who do not run from sinning every day but still, cannot even try to tolerate each other. I maybe young and there are things that I probably don't understand, but I do know that there is such thing as human rights especially when it comes to practicing religion as they please. I know for sure that as a Muslim, in Islam, I am taught to protect and tolerate the non Muslims, not oppress and be disrespectful towards what their beliefs. 

"O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted." Quran (49:13)

here's an article by the Board of Directors of MPF (Muslim Professionals Forum);

      Muslim Professionals Forum (MPF)
Press Release

We refer to the protest by some 50 residents in Taman Medan over the display of a cross on a newly minted church.

This mindless act of hatred and incitement against another religion's place of worship has no place in Islam and deserves unreserved condemnation.

Islam is rich with examples of respect for other faiths, their adherents and protection of their places of worship.

Let us take heed from the best of examples, the prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him. In a well documented incident, the Prophet received a delegation of sixty Christians from Yemen at his mosque in Madina. They were led by a bishop, Abu Haritha ibn Alqamam, a well respected authority on Christianity. When the time for their prayer came, they faced the direction of east and prayed. Some Muslims out of ignorance protested but the Prophet ordered that they be left in their state and not harmed.

Yet another famed example is that of Umar ibn Al-Khattabb, the second righteous caliph. During his reign the religious freedom of the citizens of Ilya (Jerusalem) and the sanctity of their synagogues and places of worship were confirmed: “This is the protection which the slave-servant of Allah, Umar, the Commander of the Believers, extends to the people of Ilya: The safeguarding of their lives, properties, churches, crosses, and of their entire community. Their churches cannot be occupied, demolished, or damaged, nor are their crosses or anything belonging to them to be touched. They will never be forced to abandon their religion, nor will they be oppressed …” (At-Tabari, Tarikh, Vol III, p. 609, ed. Dar Al-Ma`arif, Egypt.)

It is evident that there is no room in Islam for intolerance towards other faiths and their places of worship and any form of disrespect and desecration is antithetical to the essence of Islam. We urge the authorities to take firm action against the said protestors.

Malaysia is a beautifully plural and diverse nation and we call on all to enforce our respect for one another and their beliefs.

We end with the following all embracing verse.

O mankind! Indeed, We created you from a male and a female and We made you nations and tribes that you may know one another. Al Hujurat 49:13

Let us put an end to all enmity and hatred and get to know one another.

Monday, 20 April 2015

"10 habits of happy muslim couples"

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

I know I've been MIA a lot lately but at the end of the day, I always find myself back in this familiar box where I will always feel like I belong. I came across an article, "10 habits of Happy Muslim Couples'' on (you guys HAVE to subscribe to their website, it's amaaazing!) and I can't help but want to share how much truth there is in the article when it comes to your relationship with your other half based on my personal experience.

The first thing they mentioned was loving each other for the sake of Allah SWT. I cannot agree more on this ! Asyraf and I, definitely have our faults and flaws especially when it comes to religion. Both of us are on different levels of imaan but we continuously try to improve each other. The article doesn't mention about both partners being absolutely religious and completely alike but they mentioned on how these two people should be helping one another grow into better Muslims. I have my days when I forget to read the Quran and sometimes, pray late and other days, can't control what comes out of my mouth. This is when my other half, my sweet Asyraf Bux comes in and reminds me of the things that slip my mind. For me, improving when it comes to religion doesn't have to be going to religious classes everyday or things that are similar like that. I mean if you're already at that point, that's really good but there are times when someone in the relationship is taking babysteps, you need to tone down and fall to the level that will make your other half feel comfortable enough to advise you, talk to you and be open with you. Little things like reminding you to always be kind and gentle when speaking, help you be more honest with yourself and other people, help you to forgive people, help you become more generous or help you recognize and overcome the weakness within yourself. We sometimes forget that these little things are the things that mold you to be a better person, not just praying 5 times a day and fasting for a month. I am so grateful that being with Asyraf makes me a better person in ways I never imagined I could ever be.

"They are grateful for each other and they communicate like bestfriends". That was what they mentioned next. This is so, so important and true. Sometimes, when you've been together for a long time, you forget that the person you now see in literally every ugly state possible was the same person that took hours trying to look good for you and also the person you tried to impress over and over. It is perfectly normal to lose that sense of gratitude for having that person but you need to somehow, somewhat regain the sense of gratitude. Even in my own relationship, there are times I take him for granted and he takes me for granted. We sometimes, forget how happy we are and how much happier we can be. That's when the fights, small bickering about every single thing and arguments will start to kick in. Everything that person does is just wrong. We forget that this person, is someone Allah SWT has personally handed to us and put the feeling of love in our hearts to share with this person. I am guilty too of sometimes forgetting to say "thank you" for the little things he does for me, other days when he's tired from work and I sulk for no reason without thinking of the fact that he's tired, sometimes just something small like taking the time to talk to me before he goes to bed for work or just for no reason at all, forget to appreciate him. But once my ego (plus hormones) has stepped aside, I quickly try to make up for it and make him feel like he's the luckiest man ever. Asyraf, more than just my fiancè and insyaaAllah, the person I'm going to spend the rest of my life with is also my bestfriend. The bestfriend that I talk to about anything and everything. From the things that matter most to the things that people couldn't even be bothered about. In good times and bad, he is always the person I need to talk to and knowing him, even after 15 years down our marriage life, that will probably never change insyaaAllah. I'm able to talk to him when I'm perfectly happy but the most important thing is that when the going gets tough, we communicate even better than ever.

You know how they say always put the other person's needs before yours ? Mhmm, that's not just a saying, guys. Throughout my relationship with Asyraf, up to the point where we're one step closer to marriage, I have always put his needs before my own. Alhamdulillah, he does the exact same thing for me. Everytime we're about to do something, it's always a question of "is he/she going to be okay with it?" or "maybe I should check with him/her first". I'm telling you, this is one way to avoid misunderstandings and even if misunderstandings do happen, you both know that ultimately, both of you have each other's best interest. You need to pay attention to the other person's every need and preference, just so that the person knows that you really care (in case he/she forgets). Small things like how Asyraf prefers his teh o ais limau without the seeds of the lime or he must always have his kicap manis when he eats or how much peach tea and water to mix together so it'd have the perfect taste. He always says it's super wife material when I remember and it makes me so happy because it makes him happy !

The article also mentioned about making each other bloom. It may seem irrelevant but when you're just growing up and getting comfortable in life after school, it's a big deal. Asyraf has been nothing but amazing when it comes to motivating and encouraging me. I wanted to apply Law as my first choice for universities but there was one night that we had a spontaneous talk about my future other than marriage. He reminded me about how good I was in writing and reaching out to people, how I should do something that has to do with that rather than wasting it and taking a degree for the sake of having a degree. He spoke to me about how I inspired him to practice religion more than he was at that time and all the other stuff that actually made me rethink my choice of taking Law. Alhamdulillah, I am now waiting for a response from the universities that I have applied on an English course instead :) I am so happy that I didn't choose Law as my first choice because I probably would have regretted it. This is the kind of thing that makes me sit and think about how lucky I am to have someone who knows me so well and pushes me to be the best that I can be. Someone who makes sure that I achieve my full potential. Alhamdulillah.

Making time for each other was also one of the habits mentioned. No matter how busy you are with work, university, kids or other "important" stuff, your other half should always i repeat, ALWAYS come first. A job or a course you're studying in can always wait or be put on hold for awhile if you feel like your relationship is starting to go into a bad place. Priorities, that's what I always remember. Your priorities, values and importance will determine how far your relationship goes. Yes, there are things that will require a lot of your time but just a 15 minute talk or cuddle with your loved one doesn't hurt when you come back from your busy schedule. At the end of the day, that's the person you'll come back to. Asyraf's job doesn't require him to be at the office at 9 am and he's done by 5 pm. His job isn't fixed, sometimes he has weekends off, other times he's working. But I can tell you one thing, he always makes sure that when he's off, he spends some quality time with his family, my family, friends if he has a lot of off days but most importantly, me. Sometimes, after a day of morning flight and he has work again the next morning but we feel like we miss each other or we just want some time together, we go for a quick meal, just so we can talk and spend time with each other. Naturally, you usually make time for people you want to. So, there must be something wrong somewhere if you are "too" busy for your spouse/other half. 

Ego, evil eye and shaytan. The real enemies you should be fighting together. Realistically, we all have ego. I, too am guilty for that. Especially when I'm in anger or when we're fighting, I always want to win. Not because I really want to anyway but just because ego has made its way into my head. That's when all the gratitude, putting that person's feelings in check, remembering to be more patient with him/her all goes away because your ego has stepped in. Shaytan grins from ear to ear everytime couples fight and suddenly become harsh with each other because they forget that when they're angry they should keep quiet or to put themselves in the other person's shoes. The evil eye are couples that gloat about how happy their relationship are for no apparent reason to the social network, friends, family or any chance they get. Why ? Because they want people to envy them and what not. To me, I share things based on my personal life if I feel like it's relevant. Maybe sometimes posted up on my Instagram or my blog, just so those memories can be seen again. Never my intention to make people jealous or unhappy, Nauzubillah. Shaytan is your biggest enemy of all enemies. Not just when it comes to your relationship but everything in your life. Things like when you hear your friend or your spouse's friend say something ill about your spouse, naturally, people would just believe it. When you don't realize that's actually Shaytan, in a way whispering to you to cause a fight with your other half. Couples who have built a strong relationship, would usually just scoff listening to the news and later on, ASK not accuse but ask their other half if there's anything they should be worried about. 

More or less, these are the things that really stood out to me when I was reading the article. It's so easy to just look past it but 30 years later, you realize you're not happy with the person that you've once pledge your commitment to in front of Allah SWT, family and friends. Every relationship has its own set of problems and bad days but ultimately, it's up to you to make sure that you get back on track. I pray that Asyraf and I will continue to be each other's voice of reason and be the best version of ourselves especially when it comes to religion, insyaaAllah. He is someone I've chosen and insyaaAllah, someone Allah SWT has written for me to achieve Jannahtul Firdaus with. I am so happy with whom I've been blessed with. 

A little quote from the article; 

Sunday, 22 March 2015

strengthening your heart

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

I know it's been so long since I've blogged but trust me,it's only because I've been busy with some preparations. I GOT ENGAGED ! Yeap, you read that right. I am now someone's fiancee. That's what I've been crazy busy with. I had to prepare the itinerary, background of how Asyraf and I met, work with the emcee and so many other things that I didn't even have time to spare for my blog. But let's save the engagement story for another blog post because today, I have something else I'd like to write about. 

I came across this saying a couple of nights ago on Tumblr and the moment I read it, I knew that I HAVE to make a blog post about this. A lot of emails and questions I get are usually on how to be happy and contented with one's own life. I never really knew how to explain to people that you have to be grateful with whatever Allah SWT has blessed you with for you to be happy. But I finally found it. 

Overcoming your sadness 

From the saying above, I cannot stress enough on how important it is to not let your sadness get the best of you. It is perfectly normal to feel sad but you cannot let that sadness change you into someone you're not. If it changes you in ways that it makes you stronger and more grateful, then Alhamdulillah. But if that sadness makes you suicidal and all the other bad things, you need to start rethinking if what you're so sad about is even worth it. Sadness in so many ways does weaken your heart. I get sad too sometimes and during that vulnerable times, I find what strengthens my heart most. This is when the Quran, prayers and Allah SWT is your ultimate bestfriend. Believe me when I say, I have had my fair share of heartbreaks and depressing days but I held onto the one thing that I knew would never fail me; Allah SWT.  

It's amazing how He puts that sadness in your heart so that you would turn to Him. No one can cure the pain in your heart except for the One who has the power to put it there and also remove it. I know it's not easy to let go of the things that make you sad but trust me, it's harder to be unhappy and ungrateful with your life. Allah SWT blesses everyone with different blessings. My happiness could be a test, whether I would forget Him when I'm happy and your sadness could be a blessing that when you are sad, you would find happiness in Him. 

Tuesday, 20 January 2015

a new point of view

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

It's been awhile since I last blogged but I just felt like I needed a break. Even from my favourite pastime. I've been spending a lot of time with my family, future in laws, friends and I'm so grateful that I took the time away from my social networks. This post has been in my drafts for the longest time so, I figured I should finish writing it. 

I wanted to write about when I first decided to put on hijab but there are some things I feel like are more important for me to talk about. I honestly never thought my blog and my hijrah would attract so many people to start following me on Instagram, Twitter or to even read my blog ! I write because I feel like it's the only way I can express myself. I never really thought long and hard when I started blogging for the public and I forgot that I was giving people full access to say whatever that comes to their minds. My hijrah was one of the best decisions I've ever made for myself. I didn't do it so that I'd get over 10k followers or so that people idolized me, I did it because I felt like there was something missing in my life. I had a good family, no financial problem, great friends but there was still something empty inside of me. That's when I found religion. It was and still is something I hold so close to my heart. But my hijrah didn't end when I put on hijab. In fact, I am still going through it. When people criticize a couple things I do wrong in my life, they forget that ultimately, it's my journey. I appreciate the people that come to me personally and advice me over emails, personal message and honestly, thank you from the bottom of my heart. May Allah SWT bless your kind souls. But as a normal human being with feelings, I absolutely hate it when people comment on my Instagram posts, tweet me publicly, comment on my blog, I mean, come on ? You can hate me for not being perfect but put yourself in my shoes when you're about to say hurtful things about me. I feel like I have to point out that yes, there was a phase in my life that I was almost the perfect muslimah but that phase was mostly pushed by someone that needed me to be perfect in order to be "enough" for him. When I realized that I wasn't doing it out of pure sincerity, I took a step back to fall on a level that I felt more comfortable in so that I could work my way up again and this time, full on sincerity because of Allah SWT and no one else. I feel like all this criticizing and hating is so unnecessary. I am always trying to improve myself to be better and enough for Allah SWT. Not so that I can have people come to me and praise me and tell me they idolize me for being the perfect muslimah. There is so much more to a person than what they choose to show. And you know what annoys me most about all this ? The people that publicly "advise" me are the people that only know me through social networks. Not even the people that know me personally. If you are so unhappy and displeased about what you see when it comes to me, please, don't hypocritically follow me on my social networks anymore. Whatever that Allah SWT is displeased with me about, that is ultimately between me and Him. Not me and you. It is my journey and I want to be the best person that I can be. For myself, my family, my future husband and Allah SWT, not to please other people. 

Thursday, 30 October 2014

close to freedom

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh 

Aaaaah, how much I miss blogging ! I've been so stressed out lately because I'm so scared and anxious of what's to come that I totally forgot I release stress best when I write. Today is my last day of high school.. Ever. I can't believe it's been 5 crazy years, it's so overwhelming to think about. Since I will be sitting for SPM in a couple of days, there are some things I'd like to say. 

First and far most, forgive me if I have ever said or done anything to hurt any of you whether intentionally or not. I am so sorry if there are times I don't reply to your comments, or when I do reply, I say the wrong things. The people that read my blog are the reason I try my level best to help people be better in one way or another. Although, you guys actually have no idea how much you guys make me a better person. Thank you so much for the support you've given me. I am just 17 and there are a lot of things that I still have to learn so, I hope you guys stay throughout the journey. To all the 97s that are sitting for SPM this Monday, I pray from the bottom of my heart that Allah will help you and be with you throughout it all. I hope He grants you nothing less than straight As to make your parents proud, Allahumma Aamiin. InsyaaAllah all those nights you stayed up studying will pay off. I hope you keep me in your prayers as I will, insyaaAllah keep you in mine. 

Wednesday, 24 September 2014

being grateful

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

It's been awhile, hasn't it ? I have been sick and busy and the holidays were around so, it meant more family time and less social network for me. Also, yes.... I'm going through that no mojo phase again where I have no idea what to blog about. SPM is so close, it's so scary. That is also why I haven't been on my blog, for awhile. Duty calls, sigh. Good news, I have just the perfect thing I want to write about today. 

Being Grateful

Couple of days ago, I was bowing down on the prayer mat performing my Asar prayer when I suddenly felt so content. Content with everything I had, content with my perfect physical features, content with having a lovely family, content with being able to wake up every morning and be grateful I'm a Muslim. Just content. I didn't know what it was I was feeling at that time but it felt, right and good. It was such an overwhelming feeling that I can't even remember the last time I felt that way. I got up from my position and gave my salam. At that particular moment, I quietly thanked God for everything and asked for forgiveness for the times I forgot to be grateful. I felt so sad how I never realized how much of a blessing it was being able to wake up every morning and breathe the morning air. I tried to imagine waking up not being Muslim but I couldn't... Then, I realized it was because I didn't want to. I didn't want to wake up and not be a Muslim because being Muslim is the greatest part about me. I'm not the best Muslim but I try. I try and try to be better everyday. I sin but I'm not a devil, I do good but I'm definitely no angel. If I wasn't a Muslim, I probably would never look into Islam and I would never know how beautiful this religion really is. No matter how much I stray away and I forget Allah, everyday He tries to remind me and pull me back. I don't always pray on time, I don't run away from sinning, I (Astaghfirullah, may Allah keep us away from this) sometimes talk bad about people, I sometimes forget to read the Quran, I'm not always as patient as I am on my good days, I (may Allah forgive me) sometimes raise my voice to my parents when I'm angry, I sin everyday, it's only a matter of whether I notice them or not. But no matter how many times I sin, He promises to forgive us every time we repent. MasyaaAllah, how forgiving He is when He doesn't owe us anything at all but He still waits for us to repent when we, who owe Him everything always forget to repent and be grateful. May Allah always open our hearts to repent and be grateful for all that we have.